I wrote a blog post recently about the difficult but necessary process of letting go as your child grows. It made me think about holding on. Holding on is tricky.
Holding on can be good, but it can be bad too.
Holding on to hope gets you through the most challenging times in your life. Holding on to gratitude keeps you focused on what you have to be thankful for, rather than what you lack. Holding on to your dreams keeps you moving in the right direction.
On the other hand, holding on to disappointment, to regret, to anger, to loss, can ruin your life.
Have you ever known someone who just stopped changing? Like time stopped at a certain point for them and they have never moved past it? They're angry about the same things, they can't get past a disappointment from years ago. Holding on like this can ruin your life. It keeps you from reconciling with family and friends, doesn't let you forgive and move on.
There have been so many joyful times in my life. I remember back on them fondly. Does it mean I wish nothing had changed? No way! If my children had never grown, I wouldn't get to experience the joy of watching them with their own children. I wouldn't get to play with my granddaughters, hold their hands, hear them giggle.
I don't know what tomorrow will bring, but I'm packing lightly for the journey. In my suitcase you'll find hope, gratitude, and my dreams. I'm leaving the rest behind. I hope you do too.