It's time I fired my boss
I have a terrible boss and it's time I fired her. You might think your boss sucks, but just wait until you hear about mine. She's the worst.
Every January she sets unrealistic goals for the year and has no real plan to reach them. She tells me that reaching those goals is the only way I can be successful. Without a plan of action, she's setting me up for failure.
Every day she follows me around, criticizing my every move. She tells me to give up. Why waste time writing a blog post if only a handful of people read it?
She encourages me to compare myself to others. She criticizes my hair, my outfits. Why can't I look like a 20-year-old? she wants to know.
She has no boundaries. Right when I'm ready to fall asleep, she wants to rehash the day and point out every mistake I made, what I failed to do.
My creativity is squashed. I'm so afraid to make another mistake that I don't want to take any risks. But not taking risks, not trying new things, not doing what I need to do, makes me miserable. It's just not in my DNA to give up.
I'm a creative person, I need to feel safe to explore. I need to know that it's okay to make mistakes as you figure things out. Making lots of mistakes is how you grow.
So, she's fired. Just like that.
I had a meeting with my new boss in the mirror this morning. She looks exactly like my old boss, but she's much more compassionate and she promises to treat me like a friend.
We have come up with a few rules on the way we will work together. I'm going to do my best to stick to them.
I will not let the following things dictate how I feel about myself:
- the bathroom scale
- the number of likes/shares/friends on social media
- what/when/how I eat
- what someone else thinks of me/my work
- make mistakes
- laugh at myself
- be open to criticism but trust myself above all others
- keep trying
- recognize and appreciate each small step I take toward reaching my goals
- congratulate myself for my bravery
- dream big
I hope you have the courage to fire your boss if he/she is as terrible as mine was. I can tell my new boss and I are going to get along great.